A few weeks back conversation was flowing and I found myself cringe at the thought of someone calling another woman fat. I felt hot, I mean we should be uplifting each other not bring each other down it just made me realized how most of us are not aware of effect the word fat has. I felt so bad upon hearing that and commenting on what to eat and not, I couldn't stop thinking about it.
Really no women wants to hear how fat they really are and how much they are stuffing themselves. For real guys we could do with just a little bit of love.
Some believe that making overweight people feel ashamed of their weight or eating habits may motivate them to get healthier, Nothing could be further from the truth.
Instead of motivating people, fat shaming makes them feel terrible about themselves, causing them to eat more and gain more weight.
PS: you don't only gain weight by the food we consume but also being happy, being in a healthy relationships and others believe that even when you are stressed you do gain weight. You might know it as Stress eating.
Years ago I was overweight too and people as always called me all sort of names and that really left a deep scare on me, I'll never forget the day other kids even made a song about my weight saying clothes are too big and shoes are too small, oh boy that really does crush ones self esteem. It did hurt a lot hearing them sing that song each time they saw me. I'm sure you must be thinking that I stopped stuffing myself with food but nope instead I needed to have something every moment. Those days were there hardest food was my life, my hobby, comfort and friend. At some point I never wanted to go out anymore I had to learn to be a loner which helped a lot at some point.
Majority of cases the people who fat shame others are slim and never had to struggle with weight problems some its just easy for them to divert the attention to someone else instead of themselves. With that said we always have to be careful when pointing out about others eating habits and weight.
Loving yourself is beyond what anyone can say. You shouldn't loose weight because of someone's comment, people will always talk whether you do good or bad its the same. One thing to bear in mind is that its not about them but about yourselves its coming to that place were you find happiness within yourself and proudly say that I am enough say it boldly.
Reaching the place of acceptance is hard but truly worth it. Weight, body & beauty does not define who you truly are. It shouldn't even be up for discussion as long as you love and comfortable with your own body then nothing anyone says matters. Even if you are at that point of not being comfortable and want to lose weight I believe that you can take your time and see the progress gradually so. Someone's schedule wont help you that's why its theirs not yours.
There are ways of helping someone and ways to say it.
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